“Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.”
― Steve Maraboli
People come and go, things happen, death comes, relationships ends, age doesn’t stops and “the good ol’ days” never comes back, that’s a fact, but should we hold onto to those things?
There’s a Zen story named “A heavy load”, it goes like this:
Two traveling monks reached a town where there was a young woman waiting to step out of her sedan chair. The rains had made deep puddles and she couldn’t step across without spoiling her silken robes. She stood there, looking very cross and impatient. She was scolding her attendants. They had nowhere to place the packages they held for her, so they couldn’t help her across the puddle.
The younger monk noticed the woman, said nothing, and walked by. The older monk quickly picked her up and put her on his back, transported her across the water, and put her down on the other side. She didn’t thank the older monk, she just shoved him out of the way and departed.
As they continued on their way, the young monk was brooding and preoccupied. After several hours, unable to hold his silence, he spoke out. “That woman back there was very selfish and rude, but you picked her up on your back and carried her! Then she didn’t even thank you!
“I set the woman down hours ago,” the older monk replied. “Why are you still carrying her?”
What are you still carrying, that you should let go?
You can do a lot of thing to let go, it depends on each scenario.
- Maybe you need to forgive: That does not mean you erase the past, or forget what has happened, all it means is that you are letting go of the anger and pain, and moving on to a better place.
- Or ask for forgiveness: Accepting your mistakes is a big part of growing up and showing maturity, even if that person doesn’t forgive you, you will have done your part and released the load on your back.
- Changing your outlook and accepting other’s: We live on a society, every person has their on view on life and how to live it, by accepting that fact you should be able to understand where they come from, at the end, paraphrasing the spanish philosopher Jose Ortega y Gasset: “People are people plus their circumstances”
But however you decide to do it, please do it.
Because, why keep carrying that load?